You will probably feel a variety of emotions when you lose
someone you love. The ability to make it through the death of a
loved one can be challenging. You may have feelings of shock and
disbelief, anger, guilt and depression.
Caring for yourself is not selfish. The period of recovery is
different for every person. There is no timetable for grief, so
don't compare yourself with others who have lost loved ones. Your
life has changed and healing in your own way is important for the
health of your mind, body and spirit. It's normal for some days to
be better than others.
Although there is no substitute for person to person contact, we
also know that the bereaved often begin by searching for
information. There is a wealth of information available at: Grief Recovery Center and Center for
Loss and Life Transition.
Bonnie Stachowski, MSW, LGSW
We were fortunate to have Bonnie join our staff as our grief
specialist in 2001. The bereavement aftercare service she provides
includes contacting people after they have experienced a death,
offering in-home visits when requested, providing grief and loss
information, and connecting people to community resources. She is
pleased to lend a listening ear during difficult times.
Bonnie has extensive professional experience and training in the
area of grief and loss. Her own personal losses help create an
understanding of how grief can impact people's lives. As a
volunteer for St. Cloud Hospital's Hospice Program, she facilitates
a grief group and provides bereavement aftercare. Bonnie also
facilitates a support group at a pet hospital for people who have
lost a pet.
Bonnie is a licensed graduate social worker, received her
undergraduate degree in social work from St. Cloud State University
and her Master's degree from the University of
Bonnie is married, has three daughters and seven